“We have a certain control of our thoughts: we can think about one thing or another… If we continue to keep our interests directed in a certain line, our thinking process acquires a certain power and, after some time, it can create at least moments of self-awareness.” –
Peter Ouspensky
We Are Memories
Our bodies are the sum of all the back-and-forth connections and distant relationships that synchronically comprise the invisible web of our multigenerational and autobiographical memories. Starting from the earliest days of our lives, we can’t help but take good care of roles impacting us through space and time. From the simplicity of our early years and into the midst of daily adult experiences, memory is the basis of our conditional behaviors. How we carry ourselves in the world is intricately connected to how we manage and relate to our bodies of memory.
To Forget or to Remember?
As humans, we are bound to bounce between facts and imagination, “Ratio” and emotion, ourselves and others—the two extremes constantly changing through forces of nature, of which we are both objects and subjects, focus and topic.
We associate personal agency with greater control and self-realization— powerful tactics in search of stability. Whereas a certain degree of control and stability are necessary for physical maturation, stability is a double whammy.
Upon planning our futures and evaluating our pasts, we are limited by the very nature of memories that have conditioned us to become who we are. With age, we find ourselves in a bias. We want to reach a goal but don't know what this goal is. Being vaguely aware of our ignorance, we are drawn to search in the chests of the past. In yet later years, this automatic tendency to focus on the past is experienced together and simultaneously with an awareness that the past is disorienting. We no longer know whether we want to continue remembering (what is remembering in any case?) or forget all about it. We try to do both, and no one seems to be able to help us discern what to focus on first.
My goal is to help you be present in your process of being present to yourself and remind you not to let go of the listening. The type of knowledge and memory (not everyone calls it memory) I am talking about draws heavily on our motivation to lead a harmonious life and is mundanely accessed in our daily life experiences.
The presence of listening is a good enough reason for cognitive-emotional sharpening: Our aliveness, health, focus, motivation, joy, and acceptance all come together in a dance of interrelatedness.
Remembering With Another
Whether from life-long collaborative learning experiences or occasional playful encounters in childhood, we are all familiar with the delight of experiencing life with another person.
I'm here to offer you techniques that enhance the natural and powerful inclination to remember the best of ourselves with the help of another person. Instead of reinforcing automatic aspects of yourself (as in rumination), these techniques encourage collaboration of subconscious memory mechanisms (as in dreaming) and their reemergence from scratch. Rather than focusing on habitual thoughts and emotional reactions (like in traditional psychotherapy), you become aware of your memory as a mechanism rather than a data file.
Memories Point to What is Important in the Moment
The most important outcome of “touch”-based (I use the word “touch” in a somato-poetic sense) exploration of the psyche is a sense of connection to subtle factors governing one’s life and well-being. Once the ability to take notice of ANY memory choices is sharpened, feelings can be experienced and appreciated more deeply and profoundly. This is hardly surprising since our need to feel deeper speaks to what is essential for us and our nervous systems. Subconscious memory mechanisms are our gurus. We pay attention to them so that we can learn, not so that they can stay with us.
What to expect:
Receiving touch (currently the location of in-person sessions is Dharma College, Berkeley, CA)
Staying attuned to sensations of the body
Staying in the listening
Staying in “experiencing” without trying to change anything
Noticing effortlessly
Freedom of expression
Improvising stories based on memories and phantasy
Transforming personal stories into silent performances
Reminiscing on an event
Collaborative story-telling
Dream-work
and more…
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Quotes
“If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything”
“The pleasure of remembering had been taken from me, because there was no longer anyone to remember with. It felt like losing your co-rememberer meant losing the memory itself, as if the things we’d done were less real and important than they had been hours before”
“I can only note that the past is beautiful because one never realizes an emotion at the time. It expands later, and thus we don’t have complete emotions about the present, only about the past”
“Your memory is a monster; you forget—it doesn’t. It simply files things away. It keeps things for you or hides things from you—and summons them to your recall with will of its own. You think you have a memory; but it has you!
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